LGBTQ+ History Month is the time for us to reflect on the experiences of being gay and where we have been, what we have been through and how those experiences have brought us to where we are today.
For me, as a lesbian, remembering the experience of becoming a mother in the 90s is always poignant.
Of course, it wasn’t easy, being in a lesbian relationship and wanting to start a family at that time had its challenges! But none that could not be overcome.
Finding a clinic that offered donor insemination was the first step on the journey. And amazingly it was not that difficult.
The clinic we found was understanding and incredibly sympathetic to our situation. They talked us through the options and after the obligatory tests and counselling sessions we were given the green light to go ahead.
It took a fair few months; learning about ovulation, negotiating time off with my fabulously understanding employer (thank you Lewisham Council), and hopping back and forth to London on trains, before it actually worked!
I will never forget the joy of that positive pregnancy test just before Christmas 1993. But nowhere near the joy of giving birth to our gorgeous son nine months later. Nor the joy that he has brought for the past 26 years and continues to bring to my life.
Tell us about your journey
We would love to hear from other LGBTQ+ people about your experiences of becoming a parent, so please do get in touch.
The road to parenthood can be long and complex. Do share your journey with us and tell us about the health and care services you used along the way.
Today's options for starting a family
Wonderfully, time has moved on, and it gives me so much happiness to know that the option for lesbian couples to have children is much easier.
Donor insemination is pretty simple and there are many more clinics around these days.
Different families, like ours, are everywhere with much-loved children.
There are so many more options now for LGBTQ+ people to become parents; fostering, adoption, surrogacy. I would like to think that our family has been an inspiration for those that have followed.
Follow your heart, face your challenges and dreams can become reality.
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